Friday, January 15, 2016

Inner Dialogue Or Who Are You? And Why Don't You Shut Up?

Your inner dialogue creates your personal mantra. What is yours? Is it positive ? Negative? Annoying? Scary?
It is probably created by past conditioning, which consists of what we've been told is true and what we are afraid is true.
This inner dialogue runs ramped through your head. It comes from fear and it creates fear. It creates a lot of problems. You can end up making most of your decisions from a place of fear.
Not a good idea.
You can stop it.
You can finally move forward by letting go of your own personal obstacles.
It can be hard to let go because this dialogue has been your constant companion. Even if it has caused pain, frustration and confusion, it is what you know.
Past conditioning and its inner dialogue has been with you a long time. It is going to take time and effort to make the change. Intention is the first step but not the only step. Focus and commitment are the other ingredients needed to make the change, to make this big difference in your life. In who you are.

To change the habit of your controlling inner dialogue the first step is to become aware of it.
Take a few minutes and listen to it, the babbling, the lecturing, the nagging.
What is it telling you?
Does the dialogue tell you what to do and not do because of fear?
Because of what others will think?
How it will look?
Listen  pay attention to it and then say No.
Get over it!
Let it go.
Move on.
Move forward.

Stop it, now.

It will take practice, commitment, focus.
It won't change overnight. It won't go away from intention alone.
Work at it.
Yes, it is work. There is no magic to make your inner dialogue go away, but it can also be kind of fun. Talk back, call it names, tell it to shut up. It's not you You're not yelling at yourself. This is something completely separate from who you are.
So have at it. Enjoy the process of banishing the nag.
Your life will change so much for the better without the inner nagging.
Let it go.
Move on.

Friday, January 1, 2016

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

New Year Resolutions Why I Believe In Them

I always say I want to write, more... But I don't.  There is always a reason. The intention is there but no follow through.
After the Holidays... I'll write after the Holidays...

A New Year Resolution is a fresh start.
A new beginning.
A reset.
It encourages forward thinking and helps you let go of the past.
Why not?
Go for it!
Just do it! (Nike stole my favorite line.)
 It's a new year, a good time for a beginning.
Begin again.

A New Year Resolution doesn't have to life changing.
It certainly doesn't have to be about how much you weigh.
It's more about behavior, your behavior. It's your resolution. Your intention.

Here's the glitch: Intention isn't enough.
You still have to make it happen. That's where a lot of NY resolutions go awry.
No follow through.

You have to make it happen repeatedly. Once is not enough. For a resolution to work, to become real and true you have to commit to it. Intention doesn't get the job done.

Intention without commitment and focus is nothing.

A New Year resolution is an opportunity to reach out and grab something you want. Commitment and focus is how you hold on to it.

Are you ready?
You can do this.

Happy New Year!

Monday, November 25, 2013

A Few Quotes And Thoughts

It's been awhile since I've posted here. There will be more posts to fill in the blanks of the past months. For now I want to share a few quotes and thoughts that sum up how I feel and where I am in life at this point.
 There are definitely days when I have to remind myself of this.
 So true on many levels.
 He knew what he was talking about.
 Yes Yes and Yes
 Thank you Julia.

Dear Nora 
                                                                          I miss your voice.

Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Happy Valentine's Day

A few photos to warm your heart for Valentine's Day.

Hearts and flowers 
Hearts and pencils 
Who has the key to your heart? 
More hearts and flowers 
Angel hearts 
It's all you need.
Happy Valentine's Day

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

New York In January

I was in NYC for five days in January. Here a few images from my wintry adventure.
The approach to the Queensboro bridge. I actually meant to be going west instead of east but the view of the bridge was worth the extra walk.The photo was taken a day or two before Mayor Koch passed away.
Once I was headed in the right direction I came to the Plaza Hotel with its wonderful architectural details. Did not see Eloise. 
Near the Plaza is the charming Paris Theatre. I saw the movie Quartet there, which is also charming. 
I walked down Central Park South. The view into the park was a wintry delight but the walking was a bit slippery. 
Heading towards Columbus Circle. Love the shades of gray with the green and gold. 
Columbus watching over his Circle. 
The hotel where I stayed is in Chinatown Lots of glorious Asian details and a very busy place. 
The police department building in SOHO. I'm trying to figure out if it is still used by the police department or if it has been renovated into residential spaces. Either way a beautiful building.
Being in NYC was wonderful. I had a great wintry excursion.